Excerpts

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Prologue IT’S NO SECRET

Prologue - IT’S NO SECRET

A man tells me he wants to leave his wife because they have not had sex in a year and their relationship is dead. Well, what did they expect? The couple had no chance from the beginning. It is not their fault. They were given no classes about how to stay ecstatically in love, no guidance for enduring intimacy’s intense delights. How could they have learned to create anything different from what was ...
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HOOKED OR NOT-HOOKED

Section 6-K HOOKED OR NOT-HOOKED

Extraordinary Human Relationship depends on you staying “unhookable.” Being unhookable means having the capacity to act independently from the circumstances, no matter what the circumstances are. A “hook” is any stimulus that might cause an automatic emotional reaction. The list of potential hooks is endless. It can drive people instantly nuts if you chew with your mouth open, ring the doorbell twice, insinuate that someone is stupid, criticize someone’s religion, brag about your kids’ grades, give ...
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Symptoms of Being Hooked

Symptoms of Being Hooked

  • Feeling offended or insulted, being stressed, worrying, disapproving.
  • Swearing, striking out at someone, destroying, attacking, taking revenge.
  • Making physical gestures or faces (giving the finger, sticking out the tongue, etc.).
  • Emotional reactions, uncontrolled rage, childish fears or sadness.
  • Expressing violent temper, feeling glad when someone else feels pain.
  • Feeling as a victim, sacrificing yourself, thinking “I have to,” being disgusted.
  • Resenting, judging, criticizing, blaming, threatening.
  • Trying to be right, defending yourself, justifying yourself.
  • Role-playing a character, being inauthentic, overdoing it, underdoing it.
  • Being numb, being indifferent ...
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Section 11-D WHAT IS WOMAN? YOU ASK

Section 11-D WHAT IS WOMAN? YOU ASK

What are women anyway? The patriarchy has trained us men to regard women from the surface: makeup, clothes, how much skin is showing? How big are the bulges? What jiggles? What curves? In show business they call it “tits and ass.” That is the usual limits of a man’s attention placed on a woman. “What would she be like in bed?” But what is a woman really? What is a woman underneath the surface? ...
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There are Woman spaces so ...

There are Woman spaces so safe and sensual that all of your inhibitions vanish as if they never existed. Nothing is naughty. Nothing is forbidden. You discover an openness and fluidity of movement within yourself that you thought was impossible. Her willingness to flow, blend, roll and play overwhelms you with simplicity and kindness. There never was a need to be strategic or clever, never a need to manipulate to try to get what you wanted. Just ask. Just try. The ...
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